How to Ask for Gift Cards or Money
December 21, 2008
As you may know, The Wedding Lens blog always accepts questions from our readers! Today’s blog addresses one of those questions: How do you politely ask your guests to give you gift cards or money instead of gifts?
I’d like to note that this may be a cultural issue. In Asian cultures, it is very common — and expected — that guests give money in lieu of gifts. So asking, in that case, would be a moot point.
There are a few ways that you can ask for gift cards or money. As you probably know, it is considered impolite to give your registry information with the invitation these days. So — just think of how you would pass along that information. I have a few suggestions:
1) Tell your close family members and close friends (wedding party) your wishes and ask them to pass along the information. This allows you to feel less awkward and gets the information out there.
2) Put it on your wedding website. I have had a few friends write on their site (under a link to “gifts”) something to the effect:
“Your presence at our wedding is the best gift we could receive. But if we’re honored with a gift from you, a monetary gift or a gift card would help us fill in the missing parts of our life together. If you prefer to give a gift, we have also registered at the following stores…”
Something to that effect lets your friends and family know your preference but doesn’t sound pushy at all.
3) Register with a bank. Some banks let you create a registry so that people can give directly to a “wedding fund” or something that you want. In this economy, I wouldn’t recommend that!
4) Register on the websites where you want the gift cards. Most stores let you register for gift cards… that will definitely make it clear to your guests.